Q 1: I am an employee in the military sector. Thanks to Allah, I have a salary and my father is still alive. I used to give him part of my salary before my marriage and keep only 500 Riyals with me. I got married and I have a two-year-old son. My father did not help me financially with my marriage and I became heavily indebted and I am paying them off until now. My father married a second wife from
Egypt
who urges him to burden my wife and I with debts. She asks my father to take part of our salaries. He borrows money from people and says that I will pay them back. He threatens to sell his farm if I refuse to do so. He always mentions that, "You and your property belong to your father". I am married and have a family to look after. (Part No. 25; Page No. 231) I have to pay the rent of my house and other expenses. My wife is a teacher and does not
want to help my father.
I want to buy a piece of land, a car, and secure my children's future through lawful means. I know that it is obligatory to obey my father but what can I do? Should I give him the money he wants although I know that he will not spend them on settling his debts nor on my mother and my siblings but will send them to
Egypt?
A:
You have to be dutiful to your parents and treat them kindly for Allah (Glorified and Exalted be He) says,
And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents.
If you cannot give your father the money he demands, you have to excuse yourself for your inability to do so kindly and pray for him.May Allah grant us success. May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and Companions.