A woman asking for money to have intimate relations with her husband

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Q: Whenever I ask my wife to come to my bed for intercourse, she refuses unless I give her a sum of money. I have two children from her, and I do not have the means to give her a sum of money every time. I am a manual worker and my work just covers the daily expenses of my house. I find it difficult to meet the extra financial demands of my wife. I do not want to earn a fortune; all I want is to please Allah and enter Jannah (Paradise) that Allah (Exalted be He) has prepared for the pious people. We ask Allah (Exalted be He) not to deprive us of it. I have advised my wife that her attitude is completely wrong and Haram (prohibited), yet she remains stubborn, (Part No. 19; Page No. 386) and she even mocks me. Please advise, may Allah reward you and safeguard you for the Muslims.

A: It is the spouses' duty to keep good company with one another. Allah (Exalted be He) says: ...and live with them honourably. He also says: And they (women) have rights (over their husbands as regards living expenses) similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as regards obedience and respect) according to what is reasonable, but men have a degree (of responsibility) over them. Thus, a wife must obey her husband, particularly when he invites her for intimate relations. Similarly, the husband should keep good company with his wife and avoid insulting her. He should provide her with Nafaqah (obligatory financial support) that includes housing, food, and clothing like her equals among women. May Allah grant us success. May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and Companions.