Disinheriting a disobedient son


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Q: I have a son who is thirty years old. He is disobedient and does not perform Salah (prayer) and drinks alcohol. I am a sixty-year-old man. I have eight children; five girls, three boys, a wife and a mother, whose needs I can not fulfill. Five years ago, my son pointed a gun at his younger brother who was five years old and wanted to kill him but he did not die. The bullet settled in the bladder of the little boy. We went to the hospital of Ta`z city because we do not have a nearby hospital in the countryside. I served the boy for three months until the bullet came out of him and I borrowed (Part No. 25; Page No. 281) 15.000 Riyals. I asked my son why he had done that to his younger brother? He replied, "Shut up and slapped me on the face in front of people." what should I do with him? It is worth mentioning that I raised him and paid the expenses of his education as well as his wife's and now he wishes my death, drinks alcohol and does not offer Salah. Could you kindly advise? Should I deprive him of inheritance or deliver him to the police? As-salamu `alaykum warahmatullah wabarakatuh (May Allah's Peace, Mercy, and Blessings be upon you!)


A: If the reality is as you have mentioned, you should invoke Allah to guide him to treat his parents kindly, maintain the ties of kinship and obey Allah. You should also advise him with wisdom and good instruction; perhaps he may comply to you and listen to you by the might and power of Allah. You may cooperate with relatives, neighbors and friends to instruct him. However, you should not deprive him of inheritance because that will turn him against you and make him worse than he is. It is better for you to leave your assets without division and make use of them in your life. Glorified be Allah, the Turner of hearts (Allah) and Alterer of conditions.May Allah grant us success. May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and Companions.




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