Husband exceeding limits in reviling


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Q 2: A husband is angry with his wife although she gives him all his lawful rights, except for having sexual intercourse with her, because he does not fulfill her rights (Part No. 19; Page No. 253) and due to other matters. He always tells her that her children are not his. Is it permissible for him to say that, even if it is out of anger, bearing in mind that she is religiously committed and performs all her obligations and takes care of her children while he is absent. Does the husband's anger at his wife in this way come under the Prophet's Hadith Any woman dies while her husband is pleased with her, she will enter Paradise. What is the meaning of this Hadith?


A: The husband’s anger at his wife for many reasons is normal. However, it is not permissible for the husband in case of anger to accuse his chaste wife of something false as saying: 'Those children are not mine', because this is a kind of Qadhf (falsely accusing a chaste person of involvement in prohibited sexual relations). Both spouses should fear Allah (Exalted be He) and keep away from such matters. It is the duty of the husband to fulfill his duty towards his wife by spending on her, providing clothing, appropriate housing, and treating her well. It is the duty of the wife to obey her husband and fulfill his rights as long as there is no disobedience to Allah (Exalted be He), like, if he called her to bed, for it is narrated in a Hadith on the authority of Abu Hurayrah that he said: The Messenger of Allah ( peace be upon him) said: When a man invites his wife to his bed and she refuses, thus he spends the night angry with her, the angels curse her until morning. Related by Imam Muslim. Allah (Exalted be He) says when explaining the rights of each of the spouses over the other: And they (women) have rights (over their husbands as regards living expenses) similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as regards obedience and respect) according to what is reasonable, but men have a degree (of responsibility) over them. And Allâh is All-Mighty, All-Wise. (Part No. 19; Page No. 254) If the wife refrains from her husband's bed for reasons on his part, then she is not to blame for that. However, if she did that intentionally, she comes under the stern warning and even becomes sinful. As for the meaning of the Hadith: Any woman who dies while her husband is pleased with her, will enter Paradise. It means that if the woman did her duty fully towards her husband and her obligation towards her religion, and abandoned what Allah (Exalted be He) has forbidden, this is a reason for her entering Jannah (Paradise) by Allah's Will and Mercy, as in the Hadith narrated by Ahmad in his Musnad on the authority of `Abdul-Rahman ibn `Awf that the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: If a woman prays her five daily prayers, fasts the month (i.e. Ramadhan), preserves her private parts (i.e. from illicit relations), and obeys her husband, she will be told (on the Day of Judgment): 'Enter from any of the gates of Paradise you wish.' (Part No. 19; Page No. 255) May Allah grant us success. May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and Companions.




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