Q:
I am married and my younger sister causes my wife and I a lot of trouble.
When I try to reconcile between them or advise my little sister, my mother interferes and clashes with me.I always face the same problem with my little sister. She makes my mother quarrel with me but I avoid these problems. Is it permissible for me to discuss such a matter with my mother?Please, find me a suitable solution so that I can be on the right path and avoid disobeying my mother. Allah says,
...and be dutiful and good to parents
Fellow brothers, would you please send me addresses of the charity organizations which would help me (Part No. 25; Page No. 255) in solving such a problem as I am afraid of being undutiful to my parents.
A:
We advise you to be dutiful to your mother, to speak kindly to her, and not to show that you are upset with her. You must continue advising your sister in a good way to keep from stirring up problems if she is not right. However, if your sister does not change her attitude, it will be better to find another house for you and your wife to avoid such problems, which disturb your life, as much as possible. If you cannot afford that, you should be patient. Allah (Exalted be He) says,
Verily, along with every hardship is relief,
Verily, along with every hardship is relief (i.e. there is one hardship with two reliefs, so one hardship cannot overcome two reliefs).
May Allah help you and grant you success!May Allah grant us success. May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and Companions.