Q 1: I have a young daughter, whom I gave in marriage to a man named A.M. After a while, there was a disagreement between them, and she was declared to be Nashiz (a recalcitrant spouse) for a year. Due to the dispute between them and the husband’s bad conduct, I swore an oath by Almighty Allah that if they got back together I would not greet the husband again and I would not enter their house. After this they got back together by mutual agreement. The husband came and greeted me against my will, and, although I was not willing to do this, I do not want to sever my relationship with my daughter and I want to be able to visit her in her home and greet her husband. Please give me your Fatwa (legal opinion by a qualified Muslim scholar) on this matter. Is it is permissible for me to go to her house and greet her husband after swearing by Allah that I would not, or is it sinful for me to do this or is it not permissible. What should I do and how should I act? Please advise me and may Allah grant you the best reward!

A: You should visit your daughter and greet her husband to maintain the ties of kinship and to avoid severing the relationships. You should also pay a Kaffarah (expiation) for breaking your oath, which is to feed ten Miskin (needy people) or (Part No. 23; Page No. 148) clothe them or free a believing slave. If you cannot do any of these things, you should observe Sawm (Fasting) for three days. The sufficing amount of food that you should give out is 5 Sa‘s (1 Sa‘ = 2.172 kg) of wheat, rice, or dates to ten Miskin, each one of them receiving half a Sa‘ each. The 5 Sa‘s are equal to about 15 kg. Q 2: My husband divorced me according to the Sunnah, but after the passage of days and months he took me back. I had already moved from his house to another and taken some of the furniture with me. When he took me back, he did so with a new contract and Mahr (mandatory gift to a bride from her groom), but I swore by Allah that I would not take any of this furniture to his house, but I am in a dire need of it now. Is it permissible for me to take it to my husband's house or not? What if I take one piece or some of it or if someone else moves it to my husband’s house? Please advise me and may Allah reward you with the best! A: It is permissible to return this furniture or some of it to your husband’s house, but after doing so you should pay the Kaffarah for breaking your oath, in the way described in the answer to the first question. You should try to protect your tongue against much swearing of oaths.May Allah grant us success. May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and Companions.