Teaching a woman while having Khulwah

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Q 3: I had a female friend when I was studying in the middle school, but, praise be to Allah, I am now adhering to the teachings of the Prophet (peace be upon him) prohibiting Khulwah (being alone with a member of the opposite sex) with an Ajnabiyyah (women lawful for a man to marry). My question is: I know that she has good and praiseworthy characteristics, and I want to guide her to some of the things that the Messenger (peace be upon him) taught, but he (peace be upon him) forbade us from being alone with an Ajnabiyyah and Allah (Glorified and Exalted be He) also forbids looking at an Ajnabiyyah. What is the solution; bearing in mind that I do not have any books specifically for women that I could give to her so she can learn something from them?

A: As you mentioned, it is Haram (prohibited) to be alone with an Ajnabiyyah and it is Haram to look at her. If you want to offer her advice, you could speak to her about this, provided she is covered and dressed modestly in front of you and without Khulwah with her. You could also give her some useful books and tapes that will help her to learn the rulings of her Din (religion), write the advice to her, or use other beneficial means that will not lead to Fitnah (temptation) and will achieve the desired goal. May Allah grant us success. May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and Companions.